You’re probably asking, what do self-care and money have to do with each other?

 

First let’s start with defining self-care, which according to Miriam-Webster is care for one’s self. 

 

I would argue that it’s much more than that…

It’s identifying your own needs (mentally, physically, emotionally) and meeting them with a daily practice.

It’s taking time to nurture yourself – body, mind, and spirit.

It’s addressing anything that is affecting your health.

 

So, what does that look like?

It could be a daily walk, an evening bubble bath, eating more nourishing foods, talking with a good friend, napping, or practicing yoga…sometimes it’s as simple as brushing your hair when you don’t even feel like getting out of bed.

 

How Money Can Affect Your Health

You may not realize how stressed money makes you feel. You may be in complete denial and think if you don’t look at it, it can’t and won’t hurt you. You probably avoid checking your accounts and just make payments to satisfy the bills. 

Worry over debt or expenses doesn’t have to be. We can experience amazing amounts of anxiety over our money. We worry we will never pay off all of our debt. We don’t see the end in sight.

We worry we won’t have enough money next month if we don’t get any new clients. We don’t know how to bridge the gap between having too little and having too much. And when we get too much we automatically go out and spend it, uncomfortable with excess.

 Inversely, we feel happy when we can pay our bills on time with more left over at the end of each month. When you can start looking at your money and debt without judgment then you can start to ease that anxiety and overwhelm. 

 

Money Self-Care Practices You Can Start Doing Today

  • Track your income, spending, and savings (monthly)
  • Save for emergencies, consciously evaluate spending (rather than mindlessly shopping)
  • Show yourself some grace – stop the negative self-talk (“I’m not good with money.”) Instead reframe it as “I’m excited to feel more in tune with my money!”
  • Dance it out when you get an unexpected deposit or check in the mail  – Get Excited!
  • Light some candles and play some calming music when checking your finances or paying bills online (whatever makes you feel relaxed and can ease the overwhelm)
  • Celebrate small victories, like paying off that credit card balance or saving on groceries this week

 

Why You Need To Practice Self-Care around Money

  • You’ll have more control over your life and line up with your values (It won’t seem so unmanageable/overwhelming.)
  • It’ll help you raise your self-esteem and confidence, give you a sense of security, and strengthen your intimate relationships.
  • Maybe most important when you take care of yourself to attract more money and abundance into your life.

If you want a more in-depth look at this, check out this podcast episode -> https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/009-how-to-make-money-part-of-your-self-care-routine/id1358026396?i=1000410197798&mt=2 

 

How do you check on your money?

 

I talk a lot about empowerment.

The reason is that I used to be/play a victim of my circumstances. I let a chain of events that happened determine my worth and my meaning.

I don’t want you to go through the same thing.

I want you to be able to take control of your life and do, or be, what you can to change what you don’t like about it.

What can you control to make your life more like you want it?

I bring it up today because I have been going through this exact thing and I didn’t even realize it. I was blaming and feeling powerless. I finally realized the reason I was feeling this way was that I was handing my power over rather than taking ownership of my emotions and feelings.

The truth is, no one can hurt you without your permission. They can’t make you feel a certain way unless you allow it.

If someone does something that hurts your feelings, it sucks. Yep, it was sh*#ty. Yep, they shouldn’t have done that. But you get to choose how you react and how it affects you.

Are you going to let it bring you down to be Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer (womp womp), OR are you going to hear it, process it, and let it go?

You know your truth and who you are inside. Take back your power. You own you.

If something bad happens, it’s okay to feel those feelings but, then, you have to pick yourself up and be gangsta.

You HAVE to move forward. You have big dreams and great things to do. Do NOT let someone else’s stuff hold you back. Not only could you be hurting yourself but you could be holding back something that could help other people out. That’s something to think on.

*If you are struggling with confidence and staying positive, check out this Ultimate Positivity Resource Library here -> tinyurl.com/positivitylibrary*

 

 

For us introverts, it’s so much easier to NOT say what’s bothering us. We would rather deal with the annoyance/hurt/betrayal than speak it, for fear that we might upset the delicate balance of what we call our lives.

Maybe this isn’t an introvert thing. Maybe this is a highly-sensitive thing. Or maybe it’s just a people-pleasing thing. I don’t know.

All I know is that I kept my mouth shut for way too long because I didn’t realize that my feelings, opinions, and thoughts were worthy of being spoken out loud. I’m so glad I finally started speaking up for myself. I will no longer be a victim of circumstance and you shouldn’t either. 

Avoiding confrontation so meekly comes across as…passive-aggressive because we become resentful. Ugh. Gross. 

So, you don’t want to have difficult talks? Who does? I had to finally realize that no one actually enjoys this. People have these talks so that they can communicate in an effective way. 

Communication is everything. Here are some ways you can better express yourself if you are struggling with this.

  1. Be honest by saying what you are feeling inside. Believe it or not, this can actually make things better where holding it in can make them worse. Don’t feel valued by your significant other? Tell him. How else is he supposed to know what you need? We all have different love languages. He needs to know yours so that he can love you the way you need to be loved. 
  2. Ask. What you think is going on may actually not be going on. You have possibly made this entire scenario up in your head. (This is where anxiety comes in to play.) 
  3. If you have a different opinion/idea, say it. If you are in a meeting and have an amazing idea in your head, share it! You never know it may be just the perfect thing…or not, but you’ll never know if you don’t speak up.

Just a couple more words of wisdom:

  •  You can’t be upset if someone doesn’t do what you want if you don’t tell them what you want. No one is a mind reader!
  • People know you are upset, even if you don’t tell them. You aren’t hiding that and sometimes it comes off worse than if you had just come out and said what you are upset about. 

So I leave you with this, what you have to say, all those thoughts in your head, are important. They need to be said. They need to be heard. Don’t be afraid to share your wisdom. You never know who you could be helping out. 

 

*If you are struggling with confidence and staying positive, check out this Ultimate Positivity Resource Library here -> tinyurl.com/positivitylibrary*