You’re probably asking, what do self-care and money have to do with each other?

 

First let’s start with defining self-care, which according to Miriam-Webster is care for one’s self. 

 

I would argue that it’s much more than that…

It’s identifying your own needs (mentally, physically, emotionally) and meeting them with a daily practice.

It’s taking time to nurture yourself – body, mind, and spirit.

It’s addressing anything that is affecting your health.

 

So, what does that look like?

It could be a daily walk, an evening bubble bath, eating more nourishing foods, talking with a good friend, napping, or practicing yoga…sometimes it’s as simple as brushing your hair when you don’t even feel like getting out of bed.

 

How Money Can Affect Your Health

You may not realize how stressed money makes you feel. You may be in complete denial and think if you don’t look at it, it can’t and won’t hurt you. You probably avoid checking your accounts and just make payments to satisfy the bills. 

Worry over debt or expenses doesn’t have to be. We can experience amazing amounts of anxiety over our money. We worry we will never pay off all of our debt. We don’t see the end in sight.

We worry we won’t have enough money next month if we don’t get any new clients. We don’t know how to bridge the gap between having too little and having too much. And when we get too much we automatically go out and spend it, uncomfortable with excess.

 Inversely, we feel happy when we can pay our bills on time with more left over at the end of each month. When you can start looking at your money and debt without judgment then you can start to ease that anxiety and overwhelm. 

 

Money Self-Care Practices You Can Start Doing Today

  • Track your income, spending, and savings (monthly)
  • Save for emergencies, consciously evaluate spending (rather than mindlessly shopping)
  • Show yourself some grace – stop the negative self-talk (“I’m not good with money.”) Instead reframe it as “I’m excited to feel more in tune with my money!”
  • Dance it out when you get an unexpected deposit or check in the mail  – Get Excited!
  • Light some candles and play some calming music when checking your finances or paying bills online (whatever makes you feel relaxed and can ease the overwhelm)
  • Celebrate small victories, like paying off that credit card balance or saving on groceries this week

 

Why You Need To Practice Self-Care around Money

  • You’ll have more control over your life and line up with your values (It won’t seem so unmanageable/overwhelming.)
  • It’ll help you raise your self-esteem and confidence, give you a sense of security, and strengthen your intimate relationships.
  • Maybe most important when you take care of yourself to attract more money and abundance into your life.

If you want a more in-depth look at this, check out this podcast episode -> https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/009-how-to-make-money-part-of-your-self-care-routine/id1358026396?i=1000410197798&mt=2 

 

How do you check on your money?

 

 

The other day I was watching my new favorite Disney movie, Moana, for the fourth or fifth time, when I realized this movie is full of positive development that kids and adults alike could benefit from watching and emulating. This inspirational movie brings me to happy and sad tears as I watch her struggles and triumphs. The next time you watch it, try to see it through new eyes. Here are a few of the life lessons I found hiding in there…those clever Disney writers!

    1. It’s ok to be different from everyone else – At the beginning of the movie, it’s obvious how Moana and her grandmother are outsiders. They are daydreaming while others are falling in line. They know that there’s more out there outside of the safety of the reef. Their creative minds seek adventure.
    2. We try to please our parents by playing it safe – Our parents just want the best for us. They want to keep us safe from harm. They convince us to stay within the safety of their comfort zone for fear that we’ll get lost or hurt. Moana knows this so she does her best to be a good daughter and not follow the tug from the ocean. She loves her father and doesn’t want to disobey him.
    3. Change or die – It soon becomes obvious that the island is not providing for its inhabitants as it always has with the coconuts and fishing inside the reef. They can no longer do the things they have always done to stay alive. They must literally find a new food source or they will have nothing to eat.
    4. Be happy right where you are – There is a whole song dedicated to being happy “right where you are” in this flick. Of course, Moana is not singing this song because she is longing for adventure elsewhere. However, I do think there is wisdom here that can’t be ignored. Even if you are adventurous and dreaming of a bigger life, you must be happy with your present life or you’ll forever be chasing happiness that will remain elusive.
    5. Follow your intuition – Despite all the warnings from her father, the chief, and the other islanders, Moana feels a calling to the sea. She can’t explain it but she knows that that ocean is calling her and beckoning her beyond. 
    6. You may have to go by yourself – Most people won’t dance to the beat of their own drum. They will do as they are told. They will do what everyone else is doing because they just think that’s the way it is. When Moana sets out the restore the heart of Ta Fiti there is no one else to go with her. It’s scary and lonely, but she knows she’s the person for the job. *The chicken, Hey Hey, ends up on board, but he’s not much help. 
    7. You will fail – When pursuing your dreams there will be times when you will fall flat on your face just like Moana does when in the middle of the ocean. And, that’s ok. Falling on your face means that you are trying to do something that you have never done. Embrace that failure and learn from it so that you can do it better the next time.
    8. Don’t take things that aren’t yours to take – Maui caused this whole big mess when he stole the Heart of Ta Fiti. Without her heart, Te Fiti turned into a mean ol’ witch. Maui took the heart because he thought he was doing a good thing serving the humans, only it wasn’t his to take. Darkness took over the whole area.
    9. Say who you are and mean it – When Moana is going through one of those fall-on-your-face moments on her outrigger in the middle of the ocean she starts chanting her mantra “I am Moana of Motunui, aboard my boat, I will sail across the sea and restore the Heart of Te Fiti.” She knows who she is and her goal. She states them proudly over and over until she believes in herself again. We can do the same thing. Say your destiny aloud as you have already accomplished it. Show yourself that you have full confidence that you can, and will, do it.

And, in conclusion, here’s my favorite song from Moana, for your listening pleasure: